Sometimes people keep going out of sheer 'politeness' or because they think their partner's enjoying it and might get annoyed if they stop.
The ability to 'read' your partner – who may be less into it than you are – is fatally flawed. Trouble is your judgement – crucial in situations like this – disappears faster than your clothes. Lots of people end up in a threesome drunk or high on drugs both can work wonders to reduce inhibition. Lots of people are well aware of this and find themselves inhibited for fear of upsetting their partner.Īnd if you can't let loose and enjoy yourself, what's the point? Is this person better in bed? Is the new person acting like your partner's the best thing in bed since the vibrator?Ĭatch a glimpse of chemistry between the two of them that's missing in your relationship and suddenly it's not half as much fun. There's three of you in the bed, not two or four, so one person will sometimes feel left out – and start getting paranoid.ĭo they fancy the new person more than you? Are they enjoying themselves more with them than they do with you?
I had no idea the two men were going to interact as well!' is a common reaction.Įven if you can handle it, thoughts of 'is he bi-curious or secretly gay?' can plague you afterwards. 'I watched my man's hand reach over to grab the other guy and then lean forward for a kiss and I was so shocked I've never recovered. In your fantasy, both the men focus on you. If it's a male/male/female combo, watching your boyfriend or husband interact with another man can also be quite a shock. Sexpert Tracey Cox warns that a threesome can lead to pitfalls in your relationship